iddah the waiting period, step by step

Our home is rented, I cannot afford it, or I do not feel safe there alone. Can I move during my iddah?

The rule is to spend the iddah in the home you lived in when he died, whether he owned it, rented it or it was lent.12 All four schools let you move when staying is not possible or not safe: the house is unsafe, you are put out, the lease ends, or (in the Ḥanafī and Ḥanbalī texts) you cannot pay the rent.34 You never have to stay where you are not safe; moving does not end or shorten the iddah, you keep it in the new home.

What the four schools say

The schools agree she may move when staying is impossible or unsafe. They differ on rent she cannot pay, on harm from neighbors, and on where she moves to.

  • Ḥanafī الحنفية

    She stays in the home and does not leave it unless she is put out, the house collapses or she fears it will, she fears for her property, or she cannot find the rent, or a similar necessity; then she moves to the nearest place.3 One example given: if she is afraid at night because of the death, with no one with her, and the fear is severe, she may move.5

  • Mālikī المالكية

    She may move for an excuse that makes staying impossible, such as the house falling down or fear of a bad neighbor or thieves, and keeps to the new home; moving without an excuse, she is returned.7 For lesser harm from neighbors, such as quarrels, she takes it to an authority that can stop it rather than moving, and may move if there is none; al-Dasūqī says fear of a bad neighbor for her own safety, or where she cannot take it to an authority, is the excuse named above that allows moving.8 Her right to housing from the estate depends on the marriage being consummated and the home being his or its rent paid; otherwise she pays the rent herself.9

  • Shāfiʿī الشافعية

    She moves for an excuse: fear of collapse or flooding, fear for herself, harm from neighbors, or serious harm intended against her.10 A rented home whose term has ended, when the owner will not renew at the going rent, is also a reason.11 The majority say she moves to the nearest suitable place.12

  • Ḥanbalī الحنابلة

    She may move if she fears collapse, flooding, an enemy or the like, if the owner takes the home back or the lease ends, if more than the going rent is asked, or if she cannot find the rent or can pay it only from her own money. What is required of her is to live there, not to secure the housing; if that becomes impossible she may live where she wishes (Abū al-Khaṭṭāb: the nearest place).14

What can change this

  • Safety comes first. If you are in danger at home, leave and get help now; every school above lets a woman move for fear for herself. Your iddah continues where you go. Whether anything else changes is a separate question for a scholar, once you are safe.
  • Feeling afraid and alone: the Ḥanafī text allows moving for severe fear at night with no one there; a contemporary fatwā allows moving if she has no one she knows near her and fears for her safety.56
  • Moving away from the area for company, to another city or state, is not among the excuses the texts list; travel during the iddah has its own page.

Sources

  1. 1

    Ibn Qudāmah, al-Mughnī (Ḥanbalī), Maktabat al-Qāhirah edition, 8:159

    Open: Ibn Qudāmah, al-Mughnī (Ḥanbalī), Maktabat al-Qāhirah edition, 8:159 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 1

    إذَا ثَبَتَ هَذَا، فَإِنَّهُ يَجِبُ الِاعْتِدَادُ فِي الْمَنْزِلِ الَّذِي مَاتَ زَوْجُهَا وَهِيَ سَاكِنَةٌ بِهِ، سَوَاءٌ كَانَ مَمْلُوكًا لِزَوْجِهَا، أَوْ بِإِجَارَةٍ، أَوْ عَارِيَّةٍ

    She must spend the iddah in the home where she was living when her husband died, whether he owned it, rented it, or it was lent.

  2. 2

    Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2300 (Furayʿah bint Mālik) · Ṣaḥīḥ (al-Albānī)

    Open: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2300 (Furayʿah bint Mālik) ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 2

    امْكُثِي فِي بَيْتِكِ حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ الْكِتَابُ أَجَلَهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَتْ فَاعْتَدَدْتُ فِيهِ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا

    He said: ... Stay in your house till the term lapses. She said: So I passed my waiting period in it (her house) for four months and ten days.

  3. 3

    Ibn ʿĀbidīn, Radd al-Muḥtār ʿalā al-Durr al-Mukhtār (Ḥanafī), 3:536

    Open: Ibn ʿĀbidīn, Radd al-Muḥtār ʿalā al-Durr al-Mukhtār (Ḥanafī), 3:536 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 3

    (وَتَعْتَدَّانِ) أَيْ مُعْتَدَّةُ طَلَاقٍ وَمَوْتٍ (فِي بَيْتٍ وَجَبَتْ فِيهِ) وَلَا يَخْرُجَانِ مِنْهُ (إلَّا أَنْ تُخْرَجَ أَوْ يَتَهَدَّمَ الْمَنْزِلُ، أَوْ تَخَافُ) انْهِدَامَهُ، أَوْ (تَلَفَ مَالِهَا، أَوْ لَا تَجِدَ كِرَاءَ الْبَيْتِ) وَنَحْوَ ذَلِكَ مِنْ الضَّرُورَاتِ فَتَخْرُجُ لِأَقْرَبِ مَوْضِعٍ إلَيْهِ،

    The woman in the iddah of divorce or death spends it in the home where it became due and does not leave it, unless she is put out, the house collapses or she fears it will, she fears for her property, or she cannot find the rent, and similar necessities; then she moves to the nearest place to it.

  4. 4

    Ibn Qudāmah, al-Mughnī (Ḥanbalī), Maktabat al-Qāhirah edition, 8:159

    Open: Ibn Qudāmah, al-Mughnī (Ḥanbalī), Maktabat al-Qāhirah edition, 8:159 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 4

    فَصْلٌ: فَإِنْ خَافَتْ هَدْمًا أَوْ غَرَقًا أَوْ عَدُوًّا أَوْ نَحْوَ ذَلِكَ، أَوْ حَوَّلَهَا صَاحِبُ الْمَنْزِلِ لِكَوْنِهِ عَارِيَّةً رَجَعَ فِيهَا، أَوْ بِإِجَارَةٍ انْقَضَتْ مُدَّتُهَا، أَوْ مَنَعَهَا السُّكْنَى تَعَدِّيًا، أَوْ امْتَنَعَ مِنْ إجَارَتِهِ، أَوْ طَلَبَ بِهِ أَكْثَرَ مِنْ أُجْرَةِ الْمِثْلِ، أَوْ لَمْ تَجِدْ مَا تَكْتَرِي بِهِ، أَوْ لَمْ تَجِدْ إلَّا مِنْ مَالِهَا، فَلَهَا أَنْ تَنْتَقِلَ؛ لِأَنَّهَا حَالُ عُذْرٍ، وَلَا يَلْزَمُهَا بِذَلِكَ أَجْرِ الْمَسْكَنِ، وَإِنَّمَا الْوَاجِبُ عَلَيْهَا فِعْلُ السُّكْنَى، لَا تَحْصِيلُ الْمَسْكَنِ، وَإِذَا تَعَذَّرَتْ السُّكْنَى، سَقَطَتْ، وَلَهَا أَنْ تَسْكُنَ حَيْثُ شَاءَتْ.

    If she fears collapse, flooding, an enemy or the like, or the owner moves her out (a loan taken back, a lease ended), or he refuses to rent it or asks more than the going rent, or she cannot find the rent, or can pay it only from her own money, she may move, because it is an excuse; she owes no rent for the home, since what is required of her is to live there, not to secure housing. If living there becomes impossible the duty falls, and she may live where she wishes (al-Qāḍī; Abū al-Khaṭṭāb says the nearest place, which is al-Shāfiʿī's view).

  5. 5

    Ibn ʿĀbidīn, Radd al-Muḥtār ʿalā al-Durr al-Mukhtār (Ḥanafī), 3:536

    Open: Ibn ʿĀbidīn, Radd al-Muḥtār ʿalā al-Durr al-Mukhtār (Ḥanafī), 3:536 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 5

    (قَوْلُهُ: وَنَحْوَ ذَلِكَ) مِنْهُ مَا فِي الظَّهِيرِيَّةِ: لَوْ خَافَتْ بِاللَّيْلِ مِنْ أَمْرِ الْمَيِّتِ وَالْمَوْتِ وَلَا أَحَدَ مَعَهَا لَهَا التَّحَوُّلُ - وَالْخَوْفُ شَدِيدٌ - وَإِلَّا فَلَا.

    Among the "similar necessities", from al-Ẓahīriyyah: if she is afraid at night because of the death and has no one with her, she may move if the fear is severe; otherwise not.

7 more sources, 6 to 12
  1. 6

    IslamQA 4706, "What Must the Mourning Widow Abide By" (contemporary fatwā; source given on the page: Shaikh ibn Baz)

    Open: IslamQA 4706, "What Must the Mourning Widow Abide By" (contemporary fatwā; source given on the page: Shaikh ibn Baz) ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 6

    However, there are many other acts that the general masses believe or have fabricated concerning a mourning woman. For example, they say that she cannot talk to anyone, she may not talk on the phone, she can only take a shower once a week, she cannot walk barefoot in her house, she cannot go out under the light of the moon, and other superstitions that are simply false. There is no basis for any of these. She may walk barefoot or with shoes in her house. She fulfills her needs in the house, such as cooking her food and the food of her guests. She may go out in the light of the moon on her roof or in her garden. She may wash herself whenever she wishes. She may speak to anyone she wishes as long as it is not suspicious speech. ... She must wear clothing which is not beautiful or attractive, regardless of whether it be black, green or otherwise.

  2. 7

    al-Dasūqī, Ḥāshiyah ʿalā al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr of al-Dardīr (Mālikī), 2:486

    Open: al-Dasūqī, Ḥāshiyah ʿalā al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr of al-Dardīr (Mālikī), 2:486 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 7

    (أَوْ لِعُذْرٍ) أَيْ كَانْتِقَالِ بَدْوِيَّةٍ وَكَانْتِقَالٍ لِعُذْرٍ فَالْمَعْطُوفُ مَحْذُوفٌ أَيْ يَجُوزُ لِلْمُعْتَدَّةِ أَنْ تَنْتَقِلَ لِعُذْرٍ (لَا يُمْكِنُ الْمُقَامُ مَعَهُ بِمَسْكَنِهَا) (كَسُقُوطِهِ أَوْ خَوْفِ جَارِ سُوءٍ) أَوْ لُصُوصٍ (وَ) إذَا انْتَقَلَتْ (لَزِمَتْ الثَّانِيَ) إلَّا لِعُذْرٍ (وَ) إذَا انْتَقَلَتْ لَزِمَتْ (الثَّالِثَ) وَهَكَذَا، فَإِذَا انْتَقَلَتْ لِغَيْرِ عُذْرٍ رُدَّتْ بِالْقَضَاءِ قَهْرًا عَنْهَا.

    A woman in iddah may move for an excuse that makes staying in her home impossible, such as its falling down or fear of a bad neighbor or thieves; she then keeps to the second home (and the third, and so on) unless there is an excuse. If she moves without an excuse she is returned by the court.

  3. 8

    al-Dasūqī, Ḥāshiyah ʿalā al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr of al-Dardīr (Mālikī), 2:487

    Open: al-Dasūqī, Ḥāshiyah ʿalā al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr of al-Dardīr (Mālikī), 2:487 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 8

    (لَا) تَخْرُجُ (لِضَرَرِ جِوَارٍ) بِالنِّسْبَةِ (لِحَاضِرَةٍ) إذْ ضَرَرُ الْجِيرَانِ فِي حَقِّهَا لَيْسَ بِعُذْرٍ يُبِيحُ لَهَا الِانْتِقَالَ بِخِلَافِ الْبَدْوِيَّةِ (وَرَفَعَتْ) أَمْرَهَا (لِلْحَاكِمِ) لِيَكُفَّهُمْ عَنْهَا … (قَوْلُهُ: لَا تَخْرُجُ لِضَرَرٍ) أَيْ كَمُشَاوَرَةٍ بَيْنَهُمْ، وَقَوْلُهُ: فِيمَا مَرَّ أَوْ خَوْفِ جَارِ سُوءٍ أَيْ عَلَى نَفْسِهَا أَوْ أَنَّهُ فِيمَنْ لَا يُمْكِنُهَا الرَّفْعُ وَهَذَا فِيمَنْ يُمْكِنُهَا … فَالْمَدَارُ إذَنْ عَلَى وُجُودِ الْحَاكِمِ وَعَدَمِ وُجُودِهِ فِي الْحَاضِرَةِ وَالْبَادِيَةِ فَمَتَى وُجِدَ الْحَاكِمُ الَّذِي يُزِيلُ الضَّرَرَ إذَا رُفِعَ إلَيْهِ فَلَا تَنْتَقِلُ كَانَتْ حَضَرِيَّةً أَوْ بَدْوِيَّةً وَإِنْ لَمْ يُوجَدْ جَازَ الِانْتِقَالُ كَانَتْ حَضَرِيَّةً أَوْ بَدْوِيَّةً

    (Matn) A woman in a town does not move because of harm from neighbors, since for her that is not an excuse that permits moving, unlike the countrywoman; she raises her matter to the ruler (ḥākim) so that he stops them. (Al-Dasūqī) This harm means things like quarrels between them; the earlier excuse of fearing a bad neighbor (2:486, which allows moving) means fear for her own safety, or it concerns a woman who cannot raise the matter to the ruler, while this one concerns a woman who can. On harm from neighbors, the deciding point is whether there is a ruler who will remove the harm when the matter is raised to him: if there is, she does not move, whether in a town or the countryside; if there is not, moving is allowed.

  4. 9

    al-Dasūqī, Ḥāshiyah ʿalā al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr of al-Dardīr (Mālikī), 2:484

    Open: al-Dasūqī, Ḥāshiyah ʿalā al-Sharḥ al-Kabīr of al-Dardīr (Mālikī), 2:484 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 9

    (وَلِلْمُتَوَفَّى عَنْهَا) السُّكْنَى مُدَّةَ عِدَّتِهَا بِشَرْطَيْنِ أَشَارَ لَهُمَا بِقَوْلِهِ (إنْ دَخَلَ بِهَا) وَلَوْ صَغِيرَةً مُطِيقَةً (وَالْمَسْكَنُ) الَّذِي هِيَ سَاكِنَةٌ فِيهِ وَقْتَ الْمَوْتِ (لَهُ) بِمِلْكٍ (أَوْ) إجَارَةٍ وَ (نَقَدَ كِرَاءَهُ) كُلَّهُ قَبْلَ مَوْتِهِ فَلَوْ نَقَدَ الْبَعْضَ فَلَهَا السُّكْنَى بِقَدْرِهِ فَقَطْ، وَهَذَا كُلُّهُ إذَا مَاتَ، وَهِيَ فِي عِصْمَتِهِ، وَلَوْ حُكْمًا وَأَمَّا إنْ مَاتَ، وَهِيَ مُطَلَّقَةٌ بَائِنًا فَالسُّكْنَى ثَابِتَةٌ لَهَا مُطْلَقًا كَانَ الْمَسْكَنُ لَهُ أَمْ لَا، نَقَدَ الْكِرَاءَ أَمْ لَا؛ إذْ هِيَ مُطَلَّقَةٌ فَالسُّكْنَى لَهَا بِلَا شَرْطٍ كَمَا سَيُنَبِّهُ عَلَيْهِ (لَا بِلَا نَقْدٍ) لِلْكِرَاءِ فَلَا سُكْنَى لَهَا (وَهَلْ مُطْلَقًا) كَانَ الْكِرَاءُ وَجِيبَةً أَوْ مُشَاهَرَةً وَهُوَ الرَّاجِحُ؛ لِأَنَّ الْمَالَ صَارَ لِلْوَرَثَةِ جَمِيعًا فَتَدْفَعُ الْأُجْرَةَ مِنْ مَالِهَا

    The widow has housing for her iddah on two conditions: the marriage was consummated, and the home she lived in at his death was his, by ownership or by a lease whose rent he had paid in advance (if part was paid, she has housing for that part). If the rent was not paid she has no housing right, on the stronger view, because the estate now belongs to all the heirs, and she pays the rent from her own money.

  5. 10

    al-Khaṭīb al-Shirbīnī, Mughnī al-Muḥtāj (Shāfiʿī), 5:107

    Open: al-Khaṭīb al-Shirbīnī, Mughnī al-Muḥtāj (Shāfiʿī), 5:107 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 10

    (وَتَنْتَقِلُ) الْمُعْتَدَّةُ (مِنْ الْمَسْكَنِ) الَّذِي كَانَتْ فِيهِ عِنْدَ الْفُرْقَةِ لِعُذْرٍ، وَذَلِكَ (لِخَوْفٍ مِنْ هَدْمٍ أَوْ غَرَقٍ) عَلَى مَالِهَا أَوْ وَلَدِهَا (أَوْ) لِخَوْفٍ (عَلَى نَفْسِهَا) تَلَفًا أَوْ فَاحِشَةً لِلضَّرُورَةِ الدَّاعِيَةِ إلَى ذَلِكَ

    The woman in iddah moves from the home she was in at the separation for an excuse: fear of collapse or flooding (for her property or child), or fear for herself, of being harmed or of indecency, because of the necessity.

  6. 11

    al-Khaṭīb al-Shirbīnī, Mughnī al-Muḥtāj (Shāfiʿī), 5:111

    Open: al-Khaṭīb al-Shirbīnī, Mughnī al-Muḥtāj (Shāfiʿī), 5:111 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 11

    (وَكَذَا مُسْتَأْجَرٌ انْقَضَتْ مُدَّتُهُ) وَلَمْ يَرْضَ مَالِكُهُ بِتَجْدِيدِ أُجْرَةِ مِثْلٍ تُنْقَلُ مِنْهُ

    Likewise a rented home whose term has ended, if the owner does not agree to renew at the going rent: she is moved from it.

  7. 12

    al-Khaṭīb al-Shirbīnī, Mughnī al-Muḥtāj (Shāfiʿī), 5:107

    Open: al-Khaṭīb al-Shirbīnī, Mughnī al-Muḥtāj (Shāfiʿī), 5:107 ↗checked Oct 18, 2026
    Read the passage: source 12

    بَلْ قَالَ الرَّافِعِيُّ: الَّذِي أَوْرَدَهُ الْجُمْهُورُ انْتِقَالُهَا إلَى أَقْرَبِ الْمَوَاضِعِ إلَى ذَلِكَ الْمَسْكَنِ

    Al-Rāfiʿī says what the majority set out is that she moves to the nearest place to that home (not wherever she wishes).

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